Anal Pleasure for Women

Hey there, ladies! You've probably heard that many men enjoy anal stimulation due to the sensitivity and location of the prostate gland.  But did you know that women can also experience mind-blowing orgasms through anal stimulation?  That's partially due to the fact that the clitoris is much larger and more complex than you might realize. 

Now, before we get started, it's important to remember that everyone's body is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. So, let's embark on this adventure with an open mind and a sense of curiosity.

The Clitoris and Anal Pleasure

First things first, let's talk about the clitoris.  Did you know that the clitoris isn't just an external structure? It actually extends internally, forming a wishbone shape that wraps around the vaginal canal and even reaches towards the anus.

Yes, you heard that right! The clitoris has hidden depths, and exploring the anal area can stimulate those hidden nerve endings, leading to mind-blowing pleasure.  Many women find the pleasure to be particularly intense when anal and external clitoral stimulation are combined.  You may want to give it a try!  Clitoral masturbation while using a butt plug or anal dildo can help strengthen the anal-pleasure connection in your mind.  It can also help reduce the "need to poop" feeling that is common when people first start anal play.  Solo exploration will help you discover what feels good for your body so you can confidently approach partnered play when you feel ready, knowing that it will be an enjoyable experience for all parties. 

Anal Train for Success

Now, let's talk about the anatomy of the anus. The anus is a muscular opening located at the end of the digestive tract. It's surrounded by a ring of muscles called the anal sphincters, which help control bowel movements. But guess what? These muscles can also provide intense pleasure when stimulated.  These muscles are the main target of anal training and are key in preparing for anal sex and other forms of anal play.  Click here to read our Ultimate Guide to Anal Training

When it comes to anal pleasure, it's important to take things slow and use plenty of lube. The anus doesn't naturally produce its own lubrication like the vagina does, so a little extra help goes a long way. Choose a high-quality lubricant to ensure a smooth and pleasurable experience.  Many prefer silicone lube for partnered play because it tends to last longer and be slipperier, others find it to be too sticky as it dries out and prefer water-based lube.  Try a few to see what works for you.  Water-based lube is recommended for use with silicone toys because silicone lube will degrade the toy over time.

A quick note about partnered play: Anal play is a riskier form of sex that requires partners to be more trusting and trustworthy than many other types of sex.  Please, never engage in anal play with a partner who is not fully committed to your safety and enjoyment.  Without proper preparation, there is a legitimate risk of injury from stretching too quickly.  Because there are few pain receptors in the anus, it is very important that you stop immediately if you experience pain or discomfort.  The receiving partner should always be in the driver's seat when it comes to partnered anal play.  

Ready for Anal Sex?

Once you feel ready for partnered anal sex, you may discover that certain positions or movements stimulate the clitoral complex in unique ways. Many women find that starting in a spooning position works well because it limits the depth and speed of thrusts.  Next, you may want to try cowgirl or another position that gives you control over depth and pace in addition to easy access to stimulate your clitoris with a vibrator or your fingers.  Despite what porn may show, many women find doggy to be the least comfortable position for anal sex.  Experiment with different angles, pressures, and rhythms to find what works best for you. Remember, pleasure is a personal journey, so take your time and listen to your body's cues.

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We hope this has helped you see anal pleasure in a new light.  Too many women have had horrible experiences with anal sex because of a selfish or inexperienced partner.  For most women who enjoy anal sex, it's nothing like what is shown in porn.  It can be an incredibly pleasurable and intimate experience.  Take the time to play solo to discover what feels good for you, use an anal training set to stretch your muscles to comfortably take your partner's penis or a toy of your choosing, and then continue to advocate for your pleasure every step of the way.  Sex is should feel good and be fun for both partners, and anal sex is no exception!